High Vibes Can Hurt
When spirituality becomes another place trauma gets silenced
This is for anyone who has been told - directly or subtly - that their trauma means they are “low vibe”, not healed enough, or somehow doing recovery wrong.
It’s for the people who tried to rise above their pain before their body felt safe enough to land.
You are not broken.
You were bypassed.
This free mini-book is for anyone who has ever been told their trauma was a story they should be over, a mindset they should shift, or a vibration they should rise above.
It gently unpacks how spiritual language can sometimes invalidate nervous system injury, survival responses, and lived experience - and how real healing begins not with positivity, but with safety.
Receive the free mini-book“This is for you if…”
This is for you if…
- You’ve been told to “forgive”, “manifest”, or “think differently” while your body was still in survival.
- You’ve questioned yourself because healing didn’t look peaceful, spiritual, or serene.
- You’ve felt shamed - subtly or overtly - for being angry, grieving, scared, or exhausted.
- You’ve tried to bypass pain because staying with it felt unbearable.
- You sense there must be another way to heal that doesn’t ask you to disappear.
What you’ll find inside
In High Vibes Can Hurt you will explore:
1. Spiritual gaslighting - named clearly
How well-meaning healing language can unintentionally silence trauma responses and make survivors feel at fault.
2. Why trauma doesn’t respond to positivity
A simple, compassionate explanation of how the nervous system holds survival, and why mindset alone is not enough.
3. Why your consciousness didn’t “create” your trauma
And why believing this can deepen shame rather than resolve suffering.
4. A different path forward
One rooted in safety, regulation, compassion, and truth - not bypassing.
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What this book will help you with
This book will help you to:
- Understand why certain spiritual or personal development spaces left you feeling worse, not better.
- Make sense of your reactions without judging yourself.
- Reconnect with your body as an ally rather than an obstacle.
- Let go of the idea that healing must look calm, graceful, or elevated.
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Begin to imagine a future that feels possible again - from the inside out.
About the author
Lou Lebentz is an international trauma trainer, speaker, and founder of The Voyage®.
With over two decades working in trauma, addiction, and recovery, Lou bridges neuroscience, lived experience, and soulful wisdom to challenge narratives that retraumatise rather than heal.
Her work is known for being deeply compassionate, trauma-aware, and unapologetically honest about what healing actually requires.
You do not need another book that tells you to “raise your vibration.”
You need something that says: